Fantasy

The fish are real to me!

Fantasy in our lives is incredibly important.  So much so that it's just as important to be able to differentiate our fantasies from our "real" lives.  Very difficult for us that are dreamers and are constantly dreaming and imagining all kinds of situations, stories and things that are not "real".  In the end it's up to us as human beings to distinguish and create those boundaries - if we choose to do so.

Which is why I'm watching the Oscars tonight.  A night of total fantasy, beautiful gowns, beautiful actors giving amazing performances...actors and other artists understand fantasy very well.  They embody someone's words for a few months and voilà, a movie comes out and they have to disembody from that character and move on to the next.  And give us - the audience - an incredibly amount of pleasure in the process.

In my life, I choose what act I will live out at any given moment.  It's less about the character traits as those are consistent throughout my life but it is always about the attitude I choose.  My most frequent choice in this lifetime has been to strive for a positive reality no matter how tall the mountain looms in the distance.  My point of view has meant peace and survival for me but I have been taken to task for it by my family.    One of them is puzzled by it and doesn't know whether he should emulate it and the second seems resentful that she cannot master that skill herself.

What is reality anyway?  It's what's in your mind.  Which is why refraining from judgment whenever you can is - for me - the way to go.  It's a way to give the benefit of the doubt to everyone so that my relationships are not forever tainted by judgment and criticism.  It's very tempting to judge and to condemn others for what they lack - in reality we all are at different levels of consciousness.  I don't know where I am on that imaginary scale but at a minimum I better be able to forgive and accept.

Dream.  And dream BIG.  It's the only way.